Divorce Strategies

Did the divorce really come out of nowhere?

One of the most difficult aspects of going through a divorce is all the uncertainty, especially around finances. It's really hard to make plans when you have no idea where the pieces are going to land. Will you be able to afford to stay in the home? Will you have to move? Will you have to change jobs or go back to work? Will the kids have to change schools? Will you have enough to retire? Will you be able to continue to save for retirement, college or emergency savings

Time published an article by Oona Metz, 'Why So Many Women Initiate Divorce'.  Reading along I found myself nodding my head with many of the reasons echoing why I chose to end my own marriage.  The main passage that hit home with me was:   " …despite years of effort, they are unable to engage their spouses in improving their partnerships. In many cases, their spouses have disengaged or abandoned the spoken and unspoken rules of marriage, leaving women cornered into choosing d

I wish I had known that there were more resources available to me than mediators and lawyers. I'd quickly dismissed mediation because I'd felt like I was being bullied so I wanted an advocate. Had I known about any of the resources below, I would have used them. There are Certified Divorce Financial Analysts® (CDFA®'s like me) that help you figure out your finances. There are Certified Divorce Lending Professionals that have training in sticky divorce situations who can h